Sunday, February 10, 2008

Combatting the Princess/Diva Syndrome...

Hello all (or all one or two of you!),

Maybe future readers will come back and comment on this post since I know there aren't many of you right now, being that this little blog is a newborn!

Anyways, the question on my mind today is how do I keep my precious little 2 year old from turning into a Princess/Diva? I knew this would be a struggle in South Orange County as it seems like every other little girl in the supermarket is prancing around in what I would have considered dress-up clothes, but I really want to know! Right now, her favorite colors are purple and brown, but she did pick out her first 2 pink shirts at Old Navy today. (She hasn't been picking out clothes very long, so she isn't totally deprived, but yes, I do tend to buy any color but pink!) She also is currently playing on the patio in a hat and sunglasses, but she's been wearing them inside all day as well!

Have we started down a slippery slope? Is she going to be asking for jewelry or a feather boa next week? I was such a happy tomboy as a kid and I would love for her to be one, too. Looks aren't everything, so I want her to like herself for who she is, not which outfit she's wearing!

I'd love to hear what you cruisers of the World Wide Web have to say...


  1. As the mom of two girls (and a boy) I'd say there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to dress up and play princess sometimes. My girls have both been attracted to plastic necklaces and dress up clothes...actually, now that I think about it, my son went through a phase where he wore his sister's necklaces, too. Pretend is fun. It's the attitude that demands and thinks she deserves anything she wants that creates the diva, not just playing pretend and dressing up :)

  2. Thanks for the reminder that attitude is everything!

  3. Hi! I have a 13 year old non-diva. I dressed her in blue as a baby; on her own she gravitated toward purple and teal (??--maybe it's a teenage thing). She is into baking, playing percussion in band, Bible study, volunteering in the nursery, and video games. She is so unlike what I imagined she would be and so unlike me. She is pretty awesome.

    I agree with christy--the self-centered attitude is where the problem comes in, and it's something that needs to be weeded out of myself every day. Hopefully, my daughter (and son) will continue to grow in this area.

    Nice blog, by the way!

  4. Balance is within the parent! Your daughter is young enough that at this point you are the biggest influence in her life. Let her play how she wants to play, and then also, show her that it's okay to do "boy" things. I grew up playing Barbies and dress up, but also in the mud puddles and football with the boys. You are aware of it, and that is a GREAT starting point.

  5. Sara--Thanks for reminding me that awareness is the first step.

    Liz--Thanks for giving me the perspective of a mom of a teenage daughter-- and for your sweet compliment!